High school – If you are from the town, you likely attended high school here. The alumni or sports connection is usually very strong. They likely have reunions and booster events. High school defines: "you are one of us."

Religious organization – Join yours and attend regularly. It aligns you with a group of local residents.

Waving – Now you know some people. When your cars approach each other, wave at the drivers you recognize. They should wave back, an early sign of acceptance.

Snow shoveling – Chores need to be done. If you are digging out your driveway, walk next door and start on your neighbor's drive. This is a great help, especially if they are elderly. People see you helping neighbors.

Coffee shops and luncheonettes – Pick one for breakfast and another for lunch. Ideally, they are near your office. Go every day, greet people and chat with everyone.

Supermarket – Town squares and community centers aren't the real place neighbors meet. You are likely to run into plenty of people you know in the aisles of your local supermarket. Dress well, avoid reading the scandal sheets at the checkout and say hello to people you recognize.

Bank locally – Even if your investments are held elsewhere, open a personal checking account at the local bank. They are woven into the fabric of the local community.

Volunteer for causes – The high profile ones will become apparent. Sixty-nine percent of firefighters in the U.S. are volunteers. Your local fire company may be a big draw for local residents. Some ride on trucks, others flip pancakes or write checks. Aligning yourself with some good causes shows you give back.

Know the industry – Unless it's a commuter town, something sustains your community. It might be farming or the big auto plant. Understand the business and its relationship to the community. It's a sign of respect.

Family connections – In England, they say things like, "My people have lived here for 300 years." If your family comes from the town, take advantage of local connections. Your family name probably gets positive recognition which will help in getting accepted.

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